I’m an odd, eclectic amalgam that shows the extensive diversity of my upbringing.
I am the mother of one young man; and, I am prouder of him than words can express. He embraces diversity and has an open mind and an open heart. He is the most amazing young man to walk the planet. Of course, I may be a tad biased.
I have a wonderful husband who never hesitates to remind me just how much he loves me. He brought into my life his six children and ten grandchildren – it’s been a wonderful experience. I am very blessed.
I read too much and write less than I used to. I love to garden and am an excellent cook not to mention baker. I also sew, crochet, knit, spin (beginner level), weave (learning), dance, etc. As well, I make drums, rattles, fans and other and sundry leatherwork.
I love to ride my motorcycle, even if it does need a lot of luv to get it back up to par after being in storage so long.
I’m an INTJ, and it’s deadly accurate. According to a communication test we all took at work, I’m a Systematic communicator (with hardly anything in the other areas). I’m also melancholy-phlegmatic and Enneagram Four with a Five-Wing: “The Bohemian”.
I listen to all sorts of music. However, I do not like being yelled at in any way, shape or form – so most of that is right out. When it comes to dancing music – it’s pretty much country, swing or ballroom. Though, I’ve found I have an absolutely horrible mental block to West Coast swing. Another one that I’m struggling to learn is the Cumbia; but, I know with practice I’ll get it down pat. Mi esposo is definitely more than willing to help me learn.
I’ve also been considering deep sea fishing, sailing and learning SCUBA…I have always loved the water. And, with the coast not all that far away, it seems like a waste to not learn how to SCUBA.
I read a wide range of genres – sci-fi, fantasy, horror, suspense, thriller, romance, biographies, physics, history, anthropology, religion, etc.
(for those who don’t want to read the whole spiel on the above link)
Have assumptions about the way things could be (strong opinions)
Need to be around other competent people
Avoid interpersonal conflict, but love a spirited debate
Can need to feel in control, and be inflexible
Can appear to be challenging and insensitive (generally not true underneath)
Tend to avoid emotional risks, tend to keep thoughts and insights to themselves
They may appear stubborn
Under stress: may become over-structured; paralyzed by seeking perfection before taking action
Systematic people are accurate and objective. They prefer to make decisions based on facts, not emotions. Systematic people rely on data and are excellent problem solvers. They tend to be persistent in their analyses, maintaining a critical focus throughout their work. Systematic people are orderly and prefer to work in an organized environment with clear guidelines. They thrive in task-oriented positions that require independent work.
Systematic people may continually seek more information to make them feel confident. Their need for facts and data can delay decision making. They are uncomfortable with emotions and avoid expressing them at all costs. Systematic people tend to put quality and accuracy ahead of feelings, even if it might hurt others, and are often perceived as impersonal.
Often teachers and scholars. They are not as prone to hostility as other melancholy blends and combine analysis with organization. They make excellent accountants and bookkeepers. Unfortunately they can become easily discouraged and may be susceptible to fear and anxiety. They may become uncooperative because of stubborn, rigid tendencies.
Ennegram 4 – Five Wing
The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental
Basic Fear: That they have no identity or personal significance
Basic Desire: To find themselves and their significance (to create an identity)
Fours are the introspective, sensitive types of the Enneagram. As the Romantics, they can see reality with unique perspectives, and some are gifted poets. They have rich inner dialogues and can seem self-absorbed to outsiders.
The Four with a Five-wing, or the “Bohemian”. These Fours add the shy, studious nature of a Five with the imaginative, emotional temperament of the Four. They don’t worry about what others think, and they certainly aren’t worried about their appearances. Fundamentally, they are the rebels and the cynics. Bohemians can be eccentric and prickly, private, and difficult to get to know.
Healthy 4w5’s brings profound creativity and insights of the intrapsychic sort. Their emotions are more under-the-surface than 4w3’s, and more private modes of communication (such as writing) are preferred. They have intellectual as well as emotional insights and can often synthesize experiences into something intensely personal yet timeless.
Average 4w5’s are devoted to cultivation of a personal worldview, often by philosophical or artistic means. They are more likely than the 4w3’s to be reclusive and out-of-touch with the greater social world, and to compensate they adopt unconventional/eccentric ways of life. They tend to withdraw for prolonged periods under stress which can leave them further isolated.